I guess that means we have all made the same mistakes.
Which leads us all to basically the same solutions.
Sad, isn't it? It took something like this to make us remember the person we used to be. The person that our W fell in love with. Yes, things change and children change the relationship but we have to remember who we are. People can talk about being equal and M is a partnership. It is, but someone has to be the leader. That's not to say that we are to be abusive or overbearing or anything like that. There has to be a head of the house hold and men have traditionally held that role. We are forgetting that role more and more so we don't make our wives mad, to put her on more of an equal footing. And our wives are equal, don't get me wrong. We all have different roles in the family. When we lose those well defined roles in the name of what, political correctness, fear or whatever, things get screwed up. It is working out well, wouldn't you say?
I guess what I'm trying to say is yes, M is an equal partnership with well defined, even old fashioned roles of each spouse within the M. I know I am guilty of not leading and staying on top of finances, etc. Trying to please my W and "letting" her do whatever she wanted whenever she wanted to got me into this mess. If I would have had boundaries in place, it would have never happened. And if it did, she would know the consequences and what to expect, which maybe would have stopped her to begin with. At least make her stop and think. As it is, she had no reason to stop and think.
Sorry for getting so long winded. You are on the right track. She is thinking of only herself. You stand up for yourself and you family. Continue doing what is right. It may be too late for her to turn herself around. It's not for you. You have learned from the past and you are becoming a better person and a better man each and every day. That is a good thing.
