It's crazy. Some people, men and women alike, feel it as some big ego boost to be able to sink their teeth into a married woman or married man. Like it makes them more man or woman to be able to "steel" someone else's spouse! It's sick.
SG ther eis an INTEL Resources thread run by QuickSilver here... He's the resident intelligence expert on the forum... He will help you get to know how serious this is... you can't trust your wife's information that's for sure...
You KNOW now that this is a SERIOUS affair if she's calling HIM after discussig divorce with you... and 30 mins is a LONG chit chat.. She's taking advice from HIM on how to proceed most likley.. I woudl like to know what was said..., But you can likley guess....
Does she have her own car to drive? You can put a prepaid phone in it with GPS, or an auto recording device to pick up her phone calls when she calls him from her car... you will only get to record her half of the convo, but it does help
Re OM : Is there anyone in circle of friends or family that you can turn to for additional support... I would like to see HER parents confront OM themsselves AND you and some other famly of yours meet wtih him for a chat as well... even some friends of both you and him maybe..
THe more people you get involved to expose to the better... you want to paint him out as a meddling manipulator who is messing with yoru wife's head at a very critical time...
He's a predator and he should be xposed as one to anyone who will be offended by him and apply some pressure to tell him to get lost and stop meddling..
Who are his enemies? Who are those who has wronged? Who is he currently getting over on?
I can't think of any true enemies. He's comes off as the jerk with a soft heart to everyone. He's known for making inappropriate passes and being rude. But once one on one with a woman he turns on the charm. I've know. This about him, but never thought my marriage would be influenced by it.
I've heard rumor that he made passes at another friends wife a few months ago and there was some sort of heated discussion between OM and the woman's wife.
I don't know that audio bugs will help. She's a texter that rarely makes calls.
A meeting has been setup with her parents for tonight. They will remain silent until after we speak. Her mom confirmed they haven't had communication with her in a while.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
Hold on.. you are meeting her parents WITH her THERE?
No no no. Just with her parents. Sorry for the confusion. I'm not ready for that kind of intervention!
Originally Posted By: Allen A
Get more info on OM from these people.. find out others who have had this problem with him.. you may hve more support than you think...
If he's done thisto a few other men's wives you may want to gather those married men together and all of you have a "chat" with him...
There's only one person that he's affected that may still care. The problem is they are still really good friends. What if he just gives the details of the plan to OM? Or do I just make him aware and tell him he needs to have a chat with his buddy (OM)?
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
No no... Don't bother doing this one on one.. especially if you don't think he will help you...
You need people you know will be offended by OM's behaviour and go WITH you to have a private chat with him... you want "yes men" who will just be there to intimidate...
ok- One more question. How does one respond to being served papers... either from her in person, or by special-delivery?
I need to be ready for the possible scenarios...
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
If she hasn't even filed yet I wuoldn't worry much about it...
The best thing to do is just act casual like you just opened a catalogue...
But you are getting ahead of yourself.
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Here's a youtube vid from teh dr phil show.. This is for kids using drugs, but it does show how hard he reccomends you crack down on threats to your home :
And yes it is easier when its your child rather than your spouse, but the point is the same... you don't mess around when your home, your kids, or your marriage is threatened like this...
I may be getting ahead of myself... but I'm trying to be prepared.
I work too much (see first post, haha ;)) and am struggling to do the amount of research and learning I want to do, and force myself to get the sleep that I know I need to maintain a level head.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
