I will talk to W and tell her that " I still do not feel comfortable with OM contacting W. Even though you do not respond, it should be in your best intrest to call ATT and have him blocked."
Too weak. Better:
"I cannot live in a marriage where my wife continues to have contact with her former affair partner. You need to send him a letter requesting to leave you alone, and change your number so that he respects those wishes. I have no desire to have to forever be a traffic cop here."
