While my H was still at home (15 months post bomb). I still cooked "family" meals and we took D's out together etc. You're right that at first it is an act. It's the "fake it till you make it" thing.
I tended to make myself more scarce (this was for me) and went out to do different things (even if it was alone). It gave me space and helped me keep my mouth closed around him.
I would avoid R talks (like the plague). There were times I broke that rule (very few btw) and the reason it, I didn't hear what I liked/wanted.
If you need space take it. Do not punish him though. That won't help. If at some point you can be friendly perhaps you will become friends at some point. perhaps not. You have alot more control than you know, it is however only control over yourself.
What do you imagine would make you feel better? A long walk? Bike ride? What can you think of that might allow you to clear your head, even if it's only for a moment?
