He could run off with OW but it might take THREE YEARS for that affair to fall apart... Most LBS' can't wait that long.. they lose hope and file or end up in the hospital ill because they coudl'nt cope iwth the abandonment
You need to start applying pressure on OW to back off if you can... what is OW's H position here? Is he trying to repair the marriage or is he shutting down?
You can try and rebuild things.. if he IS trying to steer clear of her for six months that gives you six months wtih him... To educate him that divorce is going to do a SERIOUS number on his kids long term... He likleky has the same attitude all cheaters have - "The kids'll be fine..."
They arne't.. you can read chatper one of DR and you will learn that one pretty quick... Just read CallasDAd's posts yesterday night and you will see that loud and clear
