She got on the phone and said some crap like you have to quit texting me but I know he was right there. I guess she didnt have to do it if she didnt want to. I am still a fool the more I think about it. She thinks she might have made a mistake, she is not happy, but really she is calling but really she is not chasing me. Girls dont do that. They go for the one no matter what. They dont say things and then say they are sorry latter because they had to say it because their husband made them. I am a fool. I got to go back to original plan of getting over it and doing my life fresh start. It just made me feel good for her to call crying and tell me she missed me and she made the biggest mistake of her life. she has to put her big girl panties on.
I was so happy that she called yesterday crying and upset and telling me that she missed me and that she made the worst mistake of her life and how unhappy she was with 0M that I did everything wrong. I told how much I missed her and then texted about 7 or 8 times telling her the changes I would make. I was suppose to be letting go. I end up getting told to quit texting her. What the heck was I suppose to say when she called. I was playing golf. I told her I would come get her. But she didn't want that. I have to let her make her own choices without me trying to influnce the situation. She told me I was pressuring her. What the heck did I do?
She text me that I would never forgive her, she was such a screw up. That i deserved someone normal. To text that I already have forgiven her and she texted back thank God. And then I continued to text her about how I would do anything to work this out until her husband got pissed off. What an idiot I am.
No, my ex wife has gotten married to a guy she barely knows. i am assumeing she was mad at me and making sure that she wouldnt get back togeather she married a guy she barely knew, she moved to a new town and it has hurt me.
I am dieing wondering what is going to happen. I thought I had to get over it until she carried two days ago telling me how much she missed me and that she made a mistake and that i dont deserve her. like i said i did everything wrong.. I comforted her. Hell, I still love her. I need to let it go. I want her back. Nothing makes sense. I dont know if she is coming back.
Currently the only positive out of this is the stories you are going to be able to tell when you get your life back the way you want it.
Only way you can get her back is to get to living, and that means everything that goes along with it. She has married someone else, what stronger statement could she makes in that right now "she doesn't want you".
So you do like many of us need to do and bachelor it up, like a beast. If you are going to get her back it is going to be through a strong desire and physical attraction. The only way to do it is to get it.
You are not going to do it by appealing to her mental and logical side. Because if you could have, she would not be married to this other dude.
Your W's attitude has nothing to do with you being not-attractive or assertive or whatever. She's got some deeply personal issues that she has to resolve on her own.
If she seeks your help, then fine. But you have to be sure you don't keep enabling her behavior. She's an addict and needs the "fix". The drugs will make her paranoid and passive aggressive. You have to not get wrapped up in her drama and start living your life.
Get help for your low self esteem first. Get that so at least you can get into a nice, HEALTHY relationship and not one that's based on co-dependency. Your "dating" is just like your W marrying a guy she hardly knows. Both of you are alike in that way. One of you needs to be healthy.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
