You need to become aware of your mind reading and why you do it. Once you recognize it starting you can then apply a solution.
the mind reading is something i've trained myself to do very early in life. i never liked to be blindsided so i have to think of all the possibilities ahead of time. this is why i mind read. i think you are thinking this .. so i will prepare myself this way. [snip]
i am predicting a downhill slide . . .
Originally Posted By: DumpedforMIL
Originally Posted By: greek
What if she was bringing those childhood Christmas items to your home to share that part of his life with you? Your mind reading went to the destructive end of the spectrum when you assigned her motive. She may have indeed been reaching out. However - neither of us knows that - only she does.
yes, that is entirely possible. and my mind reading leaned heavily on the negative side. i don't think i ever gave her the benefit of the doubt.
Do you see that you aren't thinking of ALL of the possibilities, that you assume and predict the worst?
