I don't think it's a big deal as long as you don't (and I know you already know this):

- have them around kids as more than a friend until it becomes serious and committed
- put yourself on the line emotionally, if you're not ready
- it doesn't make you feel worse in any way
- it's all for you, not to send a message to H, fill a void you should be filling by working on yourself instead or to avoid reality (I know you're not doing this)

So, you're an adult and you get to do adult things, including this, if you want. Just look out for yourself emotionally and don't add this to your life if it causes stress rather than makes you happy smile.

-A

When the men on the chessboard
Get up and tell you where to go;
And you've just had some kind of mushroom
And your mind is moving slow;
Go ask Alice...
I think she'll know.