Okay, so say I ask him to do/ I do the six items you suggest. And he flatly says no to the items I ask him to do. What are my consequences? He has said he wants a divorce and doesn't want to work on the relationship - what cards do I still hold?
We are still living in the same house and he has refused to leave, despite my asking several times. I feel like I have two options - to try and repair our relationship, rebuild the intimacy, etc. while he's not having contact with the OW, or just go as dark as possible with the two of us still living in the same house. The second option I sort of tried last week but ended up caving on because it's hard when we act completely normal with the kids at dinner. Rebuilding the relationship of course feels like the right road to take, and is what I've been doing the past two days and resulted in the intimate episode last night. So which road is the right one?
Deep down inside I just want him and the OW to start up again and screw their relationship up quickly (as we all know it will) so he will come crawling back. And then I get to decide if I want to take him back or not. Sigh...
