Its incredidible isn't it. "We" when they need something or need something to be in their advantage. "All them", most of the other times, and it does cost is time, energy and money.
She's fully focused on herself, with herself as the center. Like a narcissist. Actually affairs are a classic narcissist behavior.
You kill alot of her gas she gets out of it if you had a beautiful feline on your own arm. I'm not saying its good advice, but look at it problems vs solutions:
1. You don't get attention from her.... Solution is to get it from somewhere else, another female friend draws closer.
2. She has you shut out on sex.... Sex is coming from somewhere else, you actually don't care what she's doing and it looks childish to you.
3. She's only thinking about herself, and its costing you time, energy and money.... Solution is to think about yourself, put her at the same distance you would a male friend who's doing the same thing to you. Many of them would not be our friends anymore.
4. She comes to you when she wants something and acts like a "friend" ( we ), while most other times she is totally about self.... Solution is she is not your friend, she doesn't even want to be your wife.
5. We complained about attention in line #1. Actually you do get attention from your wife, but it is over critical, she looks at you like someone who has no masculine power, she's directing anger and blame into you. SHE FILLS YOUR CUP WITH INSECURITY AND WEAKNESS.... Solution is to fill your cup from somewhere else. The cup is filled to the brim full of security and sensual masculine energy.
Again these answers are not good, they are also for me and some of us on the recieving end of things.
What would we do if the wife or husband was a same-sex freind? Would we keep said friend and keep complaining? I don't think most of us would because it would make us look like a doormat and weak.
