Yes, I am in touch with the OW husband fairly frequently. We keep tabs on the spouses, like when my husband went to his parent's house this weekend I called the OW's husband to see if she was home (she was). I don't have friends at the workplace, but OW's husband does and he's been letting me know what he hears. I also still have the keystroke logger on his home computer, so I can check that at least.
And my lawyer is on board with slowing the divorce down as much as possible, so I'll keep up with that. It will be at least 6 months before the divorce is final because of the kids.
We talked last night about me coming up with a few questions about the affair that I'd like to get answered, I was thinking that one of them should be "what did you say when you broke off contact with her? Did you say we're done forever or done for now?" and see what his response is. Not that I will necessarily believe his response but I can at least ask.
