So anytimes we hit the relationship, they tighten it up. Coming out of this, sometimes better to get into a new relationship with someone who really likes you. That helps the old confidence a ton.
You see, she has to find out he really decieved her, or put her ( and/or her and her entire family ) in harms way.
Also him being found out to be cheating on her helps too.
About a week ago I told W about S praying for our family to stay together, and she thanked me for telling her that. This was at dinner, and we did not talk too much. I told her "your welcome", and that S did not want me to tell her. I told her S was probably not too happy with me because I told her. She said she was "sorry." I should have asked her why she is thanking me. A lost opportunity. I just don't want to talk with her really.
She also said that the Parents and Childern Together meeting that is for parents going to court appointed mediation was very useful. I should have asked her why she thought that, but I was avoiding talking to her that night. Another lost opportunity. I just would rather not talk to her. I did thank her for buying dinner. She did ask me to go.
How should I handle things in the future? I don't know what her expectations are. I guess I should engage her in some sort of conversation. Should I ask her "why" she thanked me for telling about son praying or the PACT meeting.
I would appreciate everyone's thoughts on this and what I should do in situations like this again. Could I ask her any questions that I did not last night?
Thanks everyone in advance!
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Well, I found out that the OM is in Costa Rica with two of his sons, and he left the youngest one at home. He does nothing with youngest son.
I took kids with me most of the time this weekend, and STBXW just stay home in front of the computer. I did not pursue her to come with us. Kids asked a couple of times. They did not want to do much with her. She tried to cook alot this weekend. I guess because I don't have any money, so she has to.
We only have one car, so I told I needed to use it on Tuesday and Wednesday next week. I told her the kids would be taken care of by a friend of mine. She asked how are you going to pay for him to take care of them, and I told her don't worry about it. She was a little annoyed, and she looked mad about it.
It was a little strange because I do not have any of her money, so why was she worried about what I am doing. I dead broke, and I do not ask her for anything. She seemed so mad about this.
Oh well, I just don't get it.
There is very little communication between us. I do not know if I should try to talk with her a little more.
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W wants to change our car insurance to her Federal Credit Union. She asked for the password this morning. I did not have a chance to tell her no because S woke up.
WTH, does she think that I am going to do anything for her right now. No way!
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I believe you showed many of us, while they are doing this, there is no "us". You and Allan A mentioned that. The reason is, that they will not look out for your best interest while they are doing this, financially or personally. I believe you have to do the same, look out for your best interests, not in a tit-for-tat, but a taking care of yourself approach. Your wife is not taking care of you right now, she's eating a big fat greasy piece of cake.
