I actually did a version of your plan right after exposure. I mentioned to the OW's husband that I need to get tested because we had continued to have sex after the PA started (because I didn't know about it, obviously). When he shared that with his wife (the OW) she was shocked, as she obviously didn't realize he was basically cheating on her with me.
And I don't think the sex we have been having has been "no strings attached", at least not from his perspective. He is often quite shook up at the end, like "what did I just do and why?" Last night he really seemed to be struggling with something afterward, which was when he said the "I wish I could be the man you need me to be" line, whatever that meant.
And last night I asked him to stop, or at least halt the divorce and he said no, that he wants to move forward and get on with the rest of his life and that halting the divorce right now doesn't do that. So YES, I think they are planning on getting back together at some point in the future. SO WHAT DO I DO ABOUT THAT? They aren't together now, he has broken off contact for now, we are getting divorced. What is my plan?
