just an update not much to tell ......but husband has gone totally dark.....is now living in same state as we are with o/w......but no phone calls.....no texts....no contact with our daughter at all...he does speak to his stepson when my son calls him, but nothing else at all......we no longer exist for him I guess....me GAL, feels good and not the same thoughts of him daily....he crosses my mind occasionally....feels good to be detached.....I actually prefer not speaking to him at all..... He has discontinued his regular child support payts. but I have reported him to the Atty.generals office of him not paying... BIG step for me to do that but he has to face the circumstances of his failure to pay... Was his idea to go thru the court system to set c/s in place..... And from what I have heard Tx doesnt play around with dead beat dad's....... Still standing and praying for him though......will do till I hear from the Lord on what I need to do next...... FORGIVENESS is key in all this.....peace comes and it really is beyond understanding......
Still standing and praying for him though......will do till I hear from the Lord on what I need to do next...... FORGIVENESS is key in all this.....peace comes and it really is beyond understanding......
I am happy that you are doing well & doing what is right for you & your kids.
Thank you for dropping in just when I needed to see this kind of update the most.
formerly known as "shelbel" Me 40, stbxh 40 DSs 9, 7 & 3 M9, T10 Stbxh is a diagnosed bipolar & an addict. The end.
Thank you....these are my real feelings.....I used to be so sad, angry,discouraged all the time till I did exactly what they say in here to do is and that is LET GO AND LET GOD....we can not handle life's trials without his help......my prayer for all of us here, is that we all come to him for comfort,guidance,and his grace. If WE dont pray for our husbands/wives who else will??? Thank you and God give you strength to keep praying.....I have been on this rollercoaster for over 3 yrs.....I lurked around in here before I actually posted...been a very long time.....but he has brought me very far on my journey with his help.... Dont ever give up and you do what God is telling you to do but do get a life for you and the children......they really have no concept of time in their minds....to us it seems an eternity.... But with God all things are possible ..I am living proof
I am glad that you turned him in for non-support. I think everyone should do that if they aren't getting support, but many on here won't and don't, because they are "afraid" of making them mad. LOL Many just don't get it, anyway, you are right, you did take a big step, in a way, I do encourage you to continue to look at your situation. I agree about following God, but sometimes he speaks to us and we don't hear what we should.
I had to come home today from work.I got served divorce papers today....seems he filed back in July, but just now made it to me after he paid what he had to pay for them to serve me.....I knew this day was coming, just a matter of time. it still hurts as much as when he left...I feel like vomiting am sick to my stomach....I dont know what else to say but keep me in prayer for strength...he didnt have the nerve to tell me in advance...how spineless I am just worried for our daughter...she was so hopeful dad would return one day...this will crush her....just pray please.
I am so sorry. I know I will be in the same place some day (soon). I've been into this since 11/08, so I know what it's like - hoping that you can outlast the MLC or whatever craziness it is and have them return. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your D.
I know you are strong - you have been here a long time. To stand this long takes a lot of strength. You will find what you need to move forward. SOMEDAY we will both be thankful for the chance to find OURSELVES!! (I keep telling myself that because so many before us say it's true.)
"Do not look back in anger or forward in fear, but around in awareness." - James Thurber
