Good points, PDT and Allen. Waterbur, I understand exactly what you are saying. Looking at it from their perspectives though, it makes me think, "Hmmm...if H DOES end up wanting out anyway, I will be PISSED that he strung me along..." EVEN THOUGH I know in my head that sex does not equal love, esp. for a man.
My case is a bit different in that H has gone from saying he thought he wanted out to saying he was willing to work on things. (Yet then he did not make another appt. with FT.) So, I have been confused as to whether to be of the mindset that we were working on reconnecting or whether I'm still detaching. I wish I was working more from a black or white position. If H still was saying he wanted to D, I think I would have a no sex policy. Of course, having just said that, it sounds like I am just allowing cake eating. But...there is no proof or signs right now of OW.
