Possible EA - Need Advice

[newmama]

Though everyone is on "Team Melody," no one is supportive of my trying to salvage the R. Everyone thinks I'm crazy for trying - they sympathize but can't understand why I would want such an a$$ back in my life. I have to admit that were it not for my dd, I'd be gone . . . the only thing that made me want to try again was the visual of imagining her being carted from low-end apt. to low-end apt., switching elementary schools while her parents moved around and reestablished themselves, and being exposed to parents' dating lives and the push/pull of divorced parents who can't work well together.

Exactly why I didn't divorce him. EXACTLY.

But you know what? If you do R, they will come around eventually. ANd those who don't come around, well, I guess they aren't friends you want in your life.

You know, at this point, you should just live your separate life and work on you. If you let him know that you dont' want the divorce, then it will make it easier to not worry so much about your actions while you do what you want and just ignore him the best you can. Limbo is very hard, though. This ain't for the weak willed that's for sure. I learned I was as strong as those characters in the movies..wow! And guess what--if you don't want to be in limbo and divorce, you still are strong because it will be a very hard decision to make but the last resort, you know?