Pretty sure its a MLC, now what?

[MHL]

That he wants to be friends is good. After all, what is love if not friendship on fire?

Grace, I love the analogy!!!!

There was definitely physical affection between us, hugs initiated by H, kisses by me. Going into that routine my argument was 'we need to do everything we can to save this so lets try to make it like a real marriage'. H agreed to that but after explaining to me, that he sees me as a friend, not a W, and just wanted me to be aware of that when it came to physical interaction.

lala,
These are really good interactions with you H. I am just a little concerned about something....I know your M is not where you want it (obviously, you are separated from your H) but some of the interactions you are describing here are very good IMO and many on these boards would "kill" to get to that place. IMO unless your H is engaged in an ongoing A you want these interactions to continue. Certainly makes it harder to detatch but if you go back and read DR, MWD asks you to identify what works and do more of that, while at the same time you are focusing on you and improving you. The other thing is that as your H does more of the things that evoke those feelings of love, he will rediscover those feelings of love for you.

You know your sitch best and you know your husband better than what we know and we have to rely on you for imformation about your sitch. You are getting alot of good advice, reading DR, DB Coach, here on the Boards. Make sure you are matching the right advice with what the situation calls for.

No matter the Sitch, No matter the advice, you are working on yourself, which you are doing. Great Job! The reason you are detatching is to keep your emotions in check so that you don't have anymore outbursts which negate any progress you have made.

I hope your return home goes well, when are you going back?