Affair busted & over, but still wants divorce

[Puppy Dog Tails]

I don't know how this fits in with the detachment.

What I meant by this was that if it messes with your ability to take the steps necessary to detach, then I would advise against it.

And I'd NEVER advise that you sleep with someone who had cheated, and not been tested (with YOU seeing the results)!!!

This tells me all I need to know:

And since I'm hoping it would bring HIM closer, I guess I am putting some emotion into it.

This is a really personal topic, but I always go by a few basics:

1. Have they been tested, and you see the results.

2. How do YOU feel afterward -- relaxed, fun, pleasured and satisfied, or used/doormattish?

3. Are you able to just enjoy the sex, with no expectations??

Puppy