Quote: Good for you. Better yet, just say....I'm sorry it upset you that I didn't send gloves with him...I'll try to remember to do that from now on. And then let it go.
That puts it on him in a way, but still shows positive intent to correct the sitch for him... you aren't sorry you forgot to send gloves, just sorry it upset him...LOL
Excellent advice, once again my dear! I just feel like I'm being attacked when H critizes me, I go into protect mode and try to argue which is useless. I guess I'd rather be right than married--that's what I'm saying anyway. I want to be married, not right. So would the zinger be "sitter has extra gloves anyways" yes it was, I realized that now...this is hard stuff to learn for me.
I just put your AAP (Accept Responsibility, Apoligize, provide posistive promise on notecard this afternoon, along with some other good advice I've found on the BB. And on the back of this card, I will put the above as an example!! Bought son two pair of gloves today, they had a buy one get one free at one of the stores I hit.
Had a nice time tonight with SS at B-Ball game. He asked about his Dad, wanted to know if he was moved back out again, I just said let's not go there. I said to SS, have you heard of MLC? SS said, yeah I kind of thought that's what it was. I then told SS I'd get something for him to read..was that a good idea?
I said your dad needs to quit drinking so much. SS said that's what I told him a few months ago and then H tried to put it back on SS. SS told his dad, I'm 19 that's what I'm supposed to do or something like that..and then SS said "and that's why H didn't talk to me for two months"...SS said that his dad knew that SS was right...SS is so perceptive and as my friend told me, SS's had to be the parent, too. Sad
I then said what I should do is D his sorry A** and then laughed and said but I'm not going to, I AM NOT going to get a divorce. So SS knows I'm hanging in there. SS also asked why his dad didn't contact his old friends, I said because H's waiting for them to call him first. H doesn't think he should have to call anybody and then I said your dad's a baby and SS said yeah I know..SS agreed, He loves his dad, but SS knows his dad oh to well.
