Originally Posted By: Grace_O
What does done look like?

Well, before the latest blow up, it looked like H coming over each evening he didn't have work stuff going on (at least 3 nights/wk) and playing with DD, feeding her, bathing her, putting her to bed. Usually, 2 of those night, he would stay until about 10ish and we would hang out, watch a movie, chat, work, whatever. We each got a morning to sleep in on the weekends so on my morning to sleep, he would be over around 6:30am before DD woke up and would stay all day until after bedtime. Sometimes we would do weekend activities with friends. There was definitely physical affection between us, hugs initiated by H, kisses by me. Going into that routine my argument was 'we need to do everything we can to save this so lets try to make it like a real marriage'. H agreed to that but after explaining to me, that he sees me as a friend, not a W, and just wanted me to be aware of that when it came to physical interaction.

Once I return home, I don't expect any of that. Of course, I hope that he keeps up interactions with DD, but I don't think he will continue to want to hang out with me. Who knows.


M-28
H-29
D-16mo.
T-10Y
M-4Y
Bomb-11/09
Sep- 12/09