Hey Hope, I'm soooo sorry your H is continuing to be damaging not only to you, but to your S as well.
For whatever reason, I wasn't able to stick up for myself. But when it got bad for my S, a rage came up inside me like I have never known. I am sooo glad it did--and glad to see it coming up in you. This is our "mamma bear" mode. We should have it for OURSELVES as well! I'm not sure why mine is "broke" or something...
Because my H will not do a thing ..nothing..nada.. in counseling, or counselor dropped us last week!! I guess I can see his point--H is doing nothing but constantly tells the C he is "done". I wanted to say "his actions do NOT indicate he is "done", just his words (and doesn't this C know to not believe 90% of what they say???)
Meanwhile, on Friday he tells me I can have our handyman remove the other set of pocket doors and put molding around the dining room and office--so WTF!!! I have gotten MORE done around this place in the last month than in the last 6 years.
I am about to go get him a new mattress--he was in so much pain yesterday from a "pulled muscle" in his shoulder and I KNOW that mattress is shot! I moved out of that room and I am sleeping so much better.
A part of me is so fearful, but....it's almost a flppin sign from GOD that it needs to be done....
My S is away at camp for a week. I am sort of "depressed" right now but "momma bear" is lurking in me....
