All I care about is that you will realize very soon that you cannot have it both ways. You cannot maintain a relationship with him, and expect us to be a family. At some point (I pray soon) you have to break things off with him, completely and permanently. No friendship, no nothing. It will eat you up inside if you try to keep this going indefinitely.
Radio I don't know what you wanted to accomplish with this communication but to me it looks like you re trying to impose your will on her and control the situation.
I struggled with this too.
Pressure from you will only be percieved as control and well, that is whatey run away from.
If you have read the resources here and you believe she is MLC you are trying to press your logic on her and expect that she has the capacity to hear your argument.
She knows that you don't approve of the affair, she knows it is not good for your M and family.
Right now she doesn't care. Right now she doesn't want what you want and your forcing that will only make her run father away. By opening your mouth and saying and imposing your will on her you are confirming that you are still the man she left...
Get me?
Originally Posted By: mental radio
in the context of her wearing her wedding ring to the airport?
You are going to get all sorts of mixed messages from her because she is confused...
Don't try ot get in her head and don't have ANY expectations.
Keep the focus on YOU and try to live your life like she's not coming back...
I am not saying she won't, I'm not saying she doesn't want the M.
I am saying she doesn't want it right now.
So drop the rope Radio...
Focus on you.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
