Well now that little problem is over I wanted to give a quick recap and then my current situation.
We have will be married 16 years in August, together 21. we have to young teenage Daughters. This is not the first time he has said he wants a divorce,the first time was 2 years ago in May 2008, that first time I was completely blindsided, I had no idea he felt this way. I found DB soon after and began DB. I got the I am not happy, and the I love you but not in love with you speach. I find my self in the same place 2 years later.
He mentioned Divorce 2 years later this May, same thing I am not happy, I love you but not in love with you. And now again he brought up divorce last Monday July 5th. He says he has waited to see if there was a change and doesnt see it...He thinks something is missing from the marraige, Yet he has done nothing to change how we interact or tell me what this change is he needs to see and feel in this marraige.
The past 2 times I tell him I agree we do need to work on and improve the marraige, he knows how I feel and I won't keep trying to change his mind. HE is so confusing because after each time he says he wants a divorce, I get upset, say what I have to say,start DB, and he starts to act like everything is fine, planning family fun days, doing things around the house, just acting like everything is fine and dandy. We do not fight and argue and maybe if we did it would be easier to undersand.
This past time a week ago, he did have more of a plan to divorce though. He wants us to get a mediator( hope I spelled that right) so we can use 1 person and do it together, and he wants to do the divorce in 90 days, to save money. He told me all of this one week ago and ever since he has not mentioned one word about it and is acting like everything is fine with us, we still sleep in the same bed, I am making him dinners and doing his laundry.
HELP!! Shelby
Me:43 H:43 T:20 YRS M:15 YRS Bomb: 6/9/08 Bomb#2 7/6/10 Served with papers at work 7/13/10 DD:14, DD:11
