Wife isn't sure about marriage...

[Quicksilver264]

She said I was holding her house hostage (she lived their prior to us getting married.) She angrily told me that I have plenty of places I can go and people that support me. She said she can't go to her parents because they aren't supportive and are angry at her. Then she errupted and told me to pack my stuff and that she's done.

DUDE, I HAVE BEEN THERE

IGNORE IT IGNORE IT IGNORE IT. DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE.

If she wants "out" so badly, the let HER go somewhere. The WAS MUST FACE THE CONSEQUENCES OF THEIR ACTIONS AND DECISIONS. It becomes less "rosy" when she has to leave her house and beg a friend to let her come stay.

This is where you have to have some real BALLS. Please read my thread. EVERY TIME I operate from a position of strength, I absolutely control the situation and the weight of my WAW's decisions falls upon her like bricks.

Ignore all this absolute crap and let her throw her fits, let her cry, let her rage. KEEP CALM, KEEP CALM, KEEP CALM.

Guess what? She is raining down Hell on herself right now. You are actually watching a person torture themselves, hurt themselves, and just plain screw with themselves. See what happens when you operate from a position of strength? KEEP IT THERE, and you will watch her tear herself apart. That is what NEEDS to happen.

Then she will have seen you remain calm the whole time, and see how an ADULT acts.

************IMPORTANT POINTS********
-DO NOT do anything stupid or RASH. Depending on the State you live in, she *could* get an ex parte order to get you out. Other than that, if she wants you out so badly, then MAKE HER DO ALL THE WORK.

-DO NOT LEAVE THE HOUSE. Clean up your room, put up some crazy art, or build a gazebo. LET HER KNOW YOU HAVE NO INTENTION OF LEAVING.

-ONLY DISCUSS THINGS ON YOUR TERMS. You MUST operate from a position of STRENGTH. Last night you appeared to do that and look WHAT A MESS SHE WAS.

Ever hear that song "Indestructible" by Disturbed? That's what you have to be. Keep operating from positions of Superiority and Dominance. CONTROL THE SKIES AND WIN THE BATTLE.