thanks! logically, i pretty much know about the self-love, and that it's a two-sided story as well, that she is not the only one to blame. i know deep down what i need to do, but am not ready for it(something instinctively tells me not yet, why, i don't know; it's for the kids' sake).
i know she's not going to change, and when i get the courage up once again to discuss this matter, i have to defintively turn around and pack my things when she says her usual "if you don't like it, there's the door" line. that has been said for years, and i just get all nervous and say that's not what i want, and start apologizing for bringing the subject up, as she walks away "with my head in her hand."
