IC... I am not negative about ICs. I went to an IC for more than a year, tried a couple before I decided which one to keep etc etc...
I am not rejecting the idea right now either. I went for 3-4 apts after Christmas with a new one. She was nice and all but couldnt handle me. I was leading and I need to be led. I have read so much and have done so much research about how to overcome infidelity that I doubt someone here in Greece would know more and be able to help me. Plus the most common way they suggest is to "get over it" which drives me mad.
I have been finding great help with Passionate Marriage and the truth is that the only way I can get out of this mental situation is hold on to myself and be at peace with me.
I read advice on the board about asking for reassurances, boundaries, no contact rules etc etc. Being in piecing for more than 8 months I believe that in the very beginning all these things are essential but also a very emotional way to ease our own anxiety and pain by thinking we can control our spouses so that they cant hurt us again. We WANT To believe we can control them, that they cant outsmart us, that we know THIS time what is going on and we can protect ourselves...The truth is very different.
