Good for him. The really great thing is that you are doing so well...not reacting to him, instead staying your course. Good for you for not discussing your R with other folks, if that bugs him...let him announce to the world that he's moved back out. It's not your job.
It's your job to take care of YOU and your kids...son, stepsons..etc.
I was up pretty late last night as son had sleep over and the boys were watching movies, but I am in Ak..so my time always shows up different than what it really is...it was probably more like 10 my time when I posted....
You keep hanging in there and Db'ing...he'll come to his senses....
Here's something interesting I saw...when he asked about people knowing and you said you weren't discussing that..he calmed down and talked to you about your family... what's important now is that I'm happy, I'm doing fine and that son is doing fine. Those are the important things right now. H didn't say anything after that either. H then asked who was at my parents, and if anyone had gotten a deer, I said no, we then talked a little more about my family.
Then, he tried to once again drag you into his drama.... H then said he went to a party at a bar Wednesday night and some of our friends were there, but they were "unsociable" I said did you talk to them? H said no they were in their little cliques, but then said he talked to D for about two minutes, had one drink and left. I said they're your friends, you're a good person, why didn't you talk to them. H then asked me if they knew he had moved back out I said no. H said why not? I said because it's none of their business, I'm not talking about it with anyone anymore. I have to keep repeating thing to my H, too.
You handled that like a champ. Then, he tried to make you feel sorry for him, or so it seemed to me.... H said that StepS went to H's brother for turkey dinner Wednesday night and H said he didnt' go...how bad is that? Won't even go to his own brother's. Again, sounds like you handled this well...not giving in to making a big deal about it. What he does is his choice. Remember that! And you did!
And I think your observation is right on track with .... I think my H spent TG eve and TG with his friend GUILT. H was mellow today, didn't seem so pissy either.
