Grace - I am curious as to why you make that statement - are you saying you weren't a good wife therefore he left?
I'm saying I have ownership in this mess. I'm saying I'm old enough and smart enough that I should have been listening with more than my ears.
Was I a good wife? In alot of ways, yes. Do I know men that would take me on and probably be very happy? Yes. Does that mean I was the best wife I could be for my H? No. That means I have had to look long and hard at all our years together (23+) and take responsibility for things I could've/should've done better.
What does that mean now? Nothing with regards to H. He has made his position clear. It means I let the amazing woman I am slide.
That means I have worked (and continue to work) hard to be the best expression of myself for me. Why? What does it matter without him? It matters b/c integrity is the one thing that I have that cannot be taken from me...I have to give it away. I am not willing to do that.
