Just keep saying stuff liek "I do'nt want a divorce, but I won't allow OM to disrespect my marriage either... You can allow an interloper to rape this marriage into oblivion or you can call him right now in front of me and tell him to back off and not call you again... It's your choice... Marriage or a Mess..."
I agree with Allen on the FT deal. I truly think mine, for instance, is great for me in dealing with my personal issues. She's even got the right philosophy about dealing with marriages in crisis. However, she wasn't a lot of good in specific, day-to-day interactions. I get better advice here! SO, I'm wondering why spend the money unless H is ready to go too on a regular basis. I'm already on track for my own personal goals...
This is why I want to become a FT: too many of them are not really good at hardball and coaching you through the game!
YOu can give this a read too SG.. There is a book by Glass called Not Just Friends published in 2004 which is heavilly researched in this subject... Highly reccomended.. MWD even submitted the endorsement for the text...
Glass takes infidleity seriously... she does NOT play softball...
Just looked at it: I read it before when you recommended it but was definitely worth a 2nd look! This is not only helpful to me in my R but for my future since this is what I want to do with my life!
2) You NEED an intel base. Lookup my thread on intel resources. If you are running your own business, then you probably know how to use a computer well. Use the resources I listed in that thread.
3) You NEED to make a LIST of all the people to EXPOSE to. THIS HAS TO HAPPEN. No matter how you FEEL or what your FT says, you need to "bring the rain".
When women are DEAD SET on a guy and WANT him, do they EVER need "time alone" to figure things out? No, they move heaven and Earth to get him. This "time alone" is GOING to be to make preparations, move the affair along, or whatever ELSE in order to GET WHAT SHE WANTS DONE.
You need to launch a massive nuclear strike at the affair. BLOW IT WIDE OPEN. Then, she is going to have to pursue him if she WANTS with EVERYTHING out in the OPEN.
Not quite the way women like to do it. They like to be subtle and PRIVATE.
This guy needs to be brought out into the light. Friends, family, co-workers, his mailman, all need to know that he is invading your marriage and home. How many guys will pursue a woman if they KNOW their ENTIRE circle of people is WATCHING them in DISGUST.
Then you expose to HER circle.
And BOTH NEED to know should they try this again, that you will DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN. They need to know that you will rain down Hell.
4) You follow DR and get a life. And ALWAYS be prepared to do 3 as needed.
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Me - 32 Her -30 Married - 7 Years Together - 9 Years No Kids 05/21 - Bomb 6/8 - Exposed 7/9 - Re-Exposed 06/11 - She Filed
