If you still aren't convinced.. Have a read of the first post in this thread :

http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2033300#Post2033300

This is a woman who decided to go softball and her husband is STILL cheating on her three years later... Is that what you want?

Red will give you some very good and clear ideas on what SHE would do if she could turn the clock back...

Many of us try softball first.. I am TRYING to convince you to NOT make the same mistakes most of us here did...