What's the best way to go about finding a FT who's views are inline with my own, or what you are describing?

The more I read and research, the closer I am to getting ready to playing hardball.

M34 W35
S5 S2
T10 M6
on/off over the years including her A
Recently-
Nov 2015 bomb
Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling
Feb bomb
March-April Reconciling
May - bomb
Mid-May I tell her I'm done