putting my big girl panties on

[flowmom]

I don't think using other people to make yourself feel better is good for them or you in the long run.

Just to be the devil's advocate...am I using my friends to "make myself feel better"? What about my sister? Why wouldn't a FWB be similar? I'm guessing you're talking about "using" someone to soothe one's ego and hurt from being abandoned and I agree that's a danger. But really, who is totally self-validating? Spending time with friends and family does make me feel better about myself...and that's healthy IMO. Is there something about a relationship with a sexual component that would automatically make that different? These are the things that I ask myself.