If YOU take him back the neighbourhood will as well, that's how that works...
Don't worry about what you have said to him thus far.. You get a clean slate just like he does...
Just try to get as much said through an intermediary rather than talking with him directly...
YOu can have one of his family send him an email that says something like :
Despite your cruel, selfish, and disrepsectful behaviour towards our Sister In Law (or whomever is writing), I have managed to get her to be willing to hear you out if you have the decency to be a man here and offer to go to family therapy to explore repairing this mess... Of avoiding an ugly divorce of both a beautiful wife AND your adolescent daughter... You ignore this chance and your whole family will be disgusted with you and we do not want OW anywhere around our home... EVER... Melody will always have a home here... Until YOU come to your senses YOU will NOT... And you are running out of time.. I will NOT do this favour for you again...
