CD: As for my part, NO it isn't too late for the apology and declaration of intent. HOWEVER....save it for a good moment...don't just throw it out there! Wait until she notices, "Hmmm...there's something different about CD!" It could be tonight, could be a few days, could be a few weeks. Feel for the right moment to say you know you were not the person you should've been/want to be in the past but you are 100% sure you are now that person and ready to be, forever. YOU are changed and for the better. Whether it's with her or without her, you are confident you will be fine... That kind of thing.
Glad we could be of help today! Allen and PDT are much better at specifics (esp. at exposing) but I think I'm pretty good with the psychology of it all - and the big picture stuff. Well, at least I hope I am, lol
PS: I totally agree on the kids being the recipient of the new you!!! Not a woman alive that doesn't notice a man and how he is with the kids. Heck, I even take note of how a man treats animals, much less my kids...
If the exposure goes well, and her fantasy begins to crash, there may be a good, emotional meltdown from her that will be the perfect opportunity. I just need a crack in the wall to get my apology and intentions delivered.
Funny. I always used to joke that despite most people's general impression of me as "intimidating" (I tend to wear what I call neutral face), I've never had a single problem with kids and dogs.
Interesting how the beings that survive on instinct and a sixth sense don't find me intimidating.
My dad is that way. People are often intimidated by him but he is the most gentle person you would ever know. Kids and animals FLOCK to him.
Good luck and remember: even if it doesn't go exactly as you see it going in your mind, it doesn't mean it was not effective. Somtimes results come right away, sometimes later.
Oh, that's OK. I'm looking forward to slowing down and enjoying lucrative endorsement deals, and a happy life on the stud farm.
You can have one too, PDT! From all I read, you deserve one! Of course, you've only commented once or twice on MY sitch, so I can't say for sure. LOL. Just kidding...
