Maybe both???

His behaviour is atrocious, Cath! There must be SOMETHING he is "getting" for this behaviour, some pay off...what could it be?

Is he so conflicted about his own self worth, what HE wants that he's unconsciously (or consciously?) PUSHING you to act first with these jabs and general rudeness??

He has mentioned S3 not missing him or asking after him SO many times I've lost count...what's THAT all about?

He seems to NEED to be needed...but at the same time feels unworthy? And thus lives up to his own crummy standards?

Glad to hear your PMA is fine, Cath. Gotta give you credit for that...Clearly this IS all about HIM.

Shiny