Unless you are going to file, I would continue to live just as I have been living. He may be just thinking out loud and let me advise you of this...there are some that never leave home while in crisis. He may be one of them...so, my question to you is this....have you thought about that one? There is no set rules here that they will run away. Some do, some don't. We don't know which category your h is in, but I suspect he's talking out loud and maybe to get a reaction out of you. This is going to be tough, but validate his feelings. This not the time to defend yourself or talk about the ow.
What you are not understanding is that you are not living in today. You are trying to force the crystal ball to reveal to you what might or might not happen in the future. With this crisis, you cannot make plans for the future, learn to take one step at a time, one day at a time w/no expectations from him. You now have to learn to accept him for who he is today, not who he was pre-mlc. If you can't do that....well....you will need to sit down and figure out what you want to do. If you do not want a divorce, then sit quietly and patiently for a while, but do go to a lawyer to see what your options will be if, and I mean if, your h files. Of course, you can always file if you don't think you can deal w/this for the long term, but it will definitely be long term w/loads of bumps in the road. Whatever you learn from the lawyer, keep to yourself...do not reveal your information to your h.
Do something this evening for YOU!
As for Facebook, someone will come along and tell you what you need to look for.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
