a. Both of you not distrated from a third party b. Both of you attending famliy therapy to work on improving how you participate in your marriage c. Both of you working together to explore a possible reconcilliation
Give that at LEAST six months under those circumstances and then invite her to make another check...
THIS is the formula for a CHANCE at marital repair...
Anything LESS than this is unfair...
If she agrees to the above but asks you to live elsewhere you might consider it... I don't reccomend it, but if she insists on it I would tell her if you find any indication that there is anything going on with you and OM that you are moving back IN and SHE moves OUT... IMMEDIATELY
Since the affair isn't open discussion yet, I've only offered B & C from your list. She refuses to go to therapy with me.
The problem with the more "pushy" options is that she already has one foot out the door. Pushing to hard for FT, etc, may just leave me with a door slamming in my face.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
