Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
As the roar from the crowd begins to fade, I expect you will find him acting out in anger and denial. Not like his normal cheerful friendly self
I also expect you will have to get your L and a biker gang to help you get your hands on some part of that. He will continue to hide it and lie about it as he tells you do what you have to because he just doesn't have it. In other words, he will probably get around to daring you to put the father of your children in jail.
So I think you should begin gathering small items for a gift basket. Soap on a rope is a great start. Generic smokes will be appreciated. Cuz when you finally do get to that point and have his @ss picked up, he will be needing some of those handy personal items.
But still ... CONGRATS to you on winning the war of the high road first, and then the settlement marathon. So take a deep breath, pour a drink, and soak in the tub a bit. Enjoy the fact that right is right, and you were.
As you sit there soaking and relaxing, grin from ear to ear as you consider him screaming and yelling at the OW over his terrible plight, how the court failed him, and how he will get even. And visualize her beginning to imagine him screaming those same things about her. A true Kodak moment indeed.
You made me laugh ..... Wonderfully descriptive and visual
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Congratulations! What's the timeline on him providing the bundle of money to you? Don't let the timelines slip!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
I'm getting ready to take my exH back to court because he still has not signed the QuitDeed for the house. He has been and is in contempt of court. I can tell ya, he won't a very happy person when he is served. Please keep us in your prayers.
ding dong JA finally got his just desserts!!!!! yup he done got served $hit on a $hingle!! hahahahahahahahahaha
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I also got a collection judgment from the judge at my hearing two week ago. W2S is right, though. Your XH will hide everything he owns, put assets in other people's name (most probably the OW), and in general make it difficult to collect.
Only 20% of these judgments are ever collected. The trick is to be among the 20% who DO collect.
In my case, my XH has relatives in another state who would be willing to hide assets for him -- so finding them would be next to impossible.
My strategy is to prove that XH lied in court about his assets. I have a friend who works for a title company who is helping me sort through XH's properties, and a repo man who is helping me run VINs on XH's vehicles. If I can prove that XH lied in court about his assets, then it's likely the judge will put him in jail with a cash bond in the amount of the back support that he owes me. I believe there is 30 days to get this evidence and make a motion for a new trial.
If all else fails, you could hire a professional collection agency but they usually take 50% of the assets collected.
I started my search at the Court House at the Real Estate Tax Assessor's office. Most of these offices have a computer for public viewing. I typed in my XH's name and got a record of all his real estate transactions (got a lot of information from that). I also typed in OW's name, just to see what would come up.
In addition to this, if you think your XH has a relative or close friend who might be trying to help him hide assets, you can type in their name and check them out too. There is a nominal cost per copy but well worth it if you find something you can can use.
I next went to the Vehicle Tax Assessor's office. A sympathetic clerk ran me off a copy of XH's vehicle assessment record for 2010. It might depend on who you talk to, as to whether you get a copy of it or not. Take the court order with you .. it might help.
This is how I started my search. I turned this information over to the title company and the repo man to see what they will turn up. Anything I can think of to help you, I will post it for you (assuming that your court judgment is similar to mine).
