putting my big girl panties on

[TimeHeals]

You'll hear differing opinions here, but I don't think using other people to make yourself feel better is good for them or you in the long run.

I am not being sanctimonious here either. I have done that exact thing when I was dumped in committed relationships (not married), and I wound up getting emotionally involved more than I wanted to, and then there's all the guilt you have to deal with if they get really emotionally invested and you don't, etc.

I think all of that crap is easier to deal with if you are feeling good and stable (which can happen just as soon as you decide it can).

It's your call, and maybe I sound kind of stiff here because I don't sense a long road ahead for me.

For me, it's going to be when I know I CAN open up my heart fully if I find the right person. Again, however, for me I am feeling close to healed.