You can show the connection wtih your kids instead... with anyone who may get word back to your wife...

When your wife is THERE with you, be on the phone with someone else and show you are really tapping into the conversation..

MWD said you have to show your spouse the better you.. She didn't say that your spouse has to be the recipient!

Your wife will see you handle people better and she will still want that, especially if it isnt' coming her way for a certain reason...