Where you get your patience and strength, God only knows!
FOR SURE no more bloody phone calls on MOndays...just DO NOT speak with him...he'll figure it out soon enough.
Your H sounds beyond confused (depression can do that...MLC too?)...he's talking about it being your 3rd D when it would be your first? Huh?
Him asking if you filed is like his own version of negative ASSuming...he can't wrap his head around why you haven't taken him to the cleaners yet...and sounds like YOU are giving that some serious thought.