Exposed finally,,limbo land

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Been a wild weekend. My days off vary, so W plans her time with OM when I’m with girls on days off. This week it fell on Sat and Sun, which are perfect for her because he gets weekends off. So she disappeared on Fri about 4, with no plans to contact DD’s or I until Monday morning.

That’s when things went south. D14 went to community outdoor movie night with friends, and was staying the night at one of their houses per W and D14 TM. I got home after midnight(movie with bro) with D8(babysat by my bro’s sitter til then), and went by W’s place(just up the street) to double check a bad feeling. Her bedroom lights were on, and I know she was 40 miles away. Figured D14 came back with GF and spent the night there, when she should’ve come home, not to W’s.

Waited til morning, TM W for door code to check it out because D14 didn’t answer phone or door. After 2 hours of W waiting for D14 to call back, I get code. Guess what, D14, GF, and 3 boys all there and obviously overnight. Took all I had not to slaughter someone. Sent boys walking home, called W - who was also floored, and took D14’s GF home. Told D14 big consequences when W gets home(so I’m not bad guy again).

BUT,,,2-3 hours later, just chatting up D14 about general stuff and she starts bashing W. She says she doesn’t like separation, cause money is tight, can’t eat out much, can’t shop much, etc. But the big one was, “I never get to spend time with mom, she spends every minute of her free time with friend(s)(and she means OM).” AND,,,"Mom told me it was OK to have all of them spend the night, but she will deny it, like I asked it and she didn't hear it. She's going to lie to you. She said it has something to do with custody." So I will wait for W to hear this and make W set consequences.

Then 30 minutes later in the car, she completely breaks down about everything, and I try to console as best I can without bashing W. D14 seems to be internally bashing her pretty good right now. I talked to W’s best GF who is extremely impartial when it comes to both DD’s, all she wants is to help DD’s, weather it hurts or helps W, so I hooked her up with D14, so hopefully D14 can get some stuff off her chest that she can’t with W and I.