CD, she went elsewhere because she CHOSE to ESCAPE the problems of the marriage rather than dealing with them.
You are correct women plan exit strategies and build walls, men do as well, but I would argue less so. However, all that emotional work and wall-buidling COULD have been put into repair instead... Your wife chose to build a wall between you rather than a bridge... She CHOSE to do this ALL IN SECRET
This is NOT the mature route to a healthy life...
And I didn't even MENTION the sleazeball yet...
DOn't blame yourself. You BOTH own the problems in the marriage 50-50, but her choice to plan an exit strategy rather than a bridge to repair the marriage SHE OWNS FULLY
Don't beat yourself up about the affair... It belongs to her and the dirt bag... Not you
