Right on the money. And this is why you get these phone calls on Mondays. He goes to work, remembers how much he hates it, and starts having that fantasy about a new life that would be better - and in his depression, he mistakenly thinks it would be better if he was rid of you.
I'm so much luckier than most, because my H was willing to get treatment for his depression, and finally realizes what a big role it played. I know you're not in a position to do anything about that with H right now - although you might try getting him to take some fish oil capsules "for his heart" - they also may have some effect on depression.
Also, recognize that since he feels trapped in his life, anything you can change or plan about a different future is good. So - change your appearance, your perfume, your clothes. Do as many 180's as you can think of. Suggest some really wild future plan (climb Mt. Whitney? Sail around the world? Go on a hunting safari in Africa?). No, those things won't cure his depression, but may start to relieve that awful feeling of being trapped - and may help him see you as his partner, not as someone who is trying to keep him chained where he is so unhappy.
Good luck. And I think you answered the phone call correctly. You do not want a divorce, if he wants it he will have to do it. Then move on to something positive.
