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Taylor, you have got to come to grips that he's in a crisis and he's going to do whatever it takes to make himself feel good. This is going to hurt, but I'm going to be very blunt with you....he's in his own world and that means he left the marriage emotionally a while ago. He considers himself single and you and the marriage now do not fit into his equation. We all have had to be hit between the eyes w/this knowledge.
Have you not listened to anything we've been telling you since you began posting? The ow, the phone calls/texting, etc., dating sites, lying, etc. are all part of the crisis and yes...REPLAY! I do believe he deliberately left the dating site info there for you to find. He wants you to react to his selfish, childish antics....DON'T!
You can only control yourself. You have several courses of action: 1) you can go in there and tell him to pack up his stuff and leave (which may be what he wants you to do so that he can say you were the one that put him out); or 2)start focusing on you and what you need to do to get yourself in a better place so that you can calmly make "smart" decisions about how to protect yourself.
I've been right where you are and I know exactly what he's doing for my xh did the exact same thing. BTW, my xh was nice until I hit him with separation papers and he became the angry man who would have stole the clothes off a begger if he thought it would have put me out on the street.
Taylor, the only way you can deal with this is to remain calm, cool and collected. You've got to step away from this mess right now, take a walk and do not confront him while you are feeling the way you are.
