Gritt, or anyone..can you tell me about the private msg thing and why mine is disabled?

You guys don't think that his being on Match.com or eharmony is a bad thing? It tells me that he doesn't care about the marriage and is trying to find someone else. WTF?

What good is focusing on myself going to do for that?

I mean yuck. At first I thought it was just the OW, now I find out he is looking for a woman 25-35 to have those kids he keeps talking about. That's why he's here..it's not to work on this with me..it's a place he can stay so he can meet other women. God..I'm such a dumba##. I NEVER in a million years would have guessed he would do these horrible things. Sneaking, lying, cheating, two-faced, assho$$. I just want to walk in there and punch him right in the face.