the reason why i selected that portion out of your entire post is because i think a lot of folks believe they are doing "the work" but is "the work" being done with confidence or with fear?
you may think that you're doing it with confidence and you're talking yourself into being confident but it is only when you truly believe in yourself that it will come across as genuinely confident. otherwise, it's still fear.
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Why should THEY be worried about WAS getting angry or upset? WAS isn't worried about making THEM angry or upset!
why should the LBS be worried about getting the WAS angry? what's the worst that can happen? the WAS is going to ask for a divorce? WAS has already made that threat. it can't get any worse than that. it can only get better from there.
fear will always stop you from getting what you want. not just in relationships, but in life. control that fear and you can handle anything.
it's too bad i learned this a little too late. but it's not to late for a lot of the folks here.
