Almost everyone new at this tries to do the following :
a. Argue b. Negotiate c. Beg
This stuff doesn't work.
You don't want to be a jerk about this, but you DO need to do the following :
a. Lead the meeting b. Be the first to end the meeting, BEFORE things get ugly c. State your position and IGNORE the negative responses and naysaying...
You will likely hear lines like :
I need space I need time I can't think right now He's just a friend
Or if she admits the affair :
We are in love We are soul mates We understand each other We are getting married This is fate, it is meant to be
STuff like that
You will also hear :
I want a divorce We shoudln't have gotten married Our marriage is over We are done Our marriage was a mistake We aren't right for each other You are too controlling
All of this is garbage SG... and you need to just KEEP STICKING to your script when you hear all this crap...
Important points to get across :
1. Our marriage needs time to resolve 2. You are contaminating this marriage with an interloping third party - you are CHEATING me and YOU and our MARRIAGE 3. It must stop NOW - No more contact from OM 4. I will not lie to cover up your affair
