Wife isn't sure about marriage...

[someguy1233]

Thank you, all. I really appreciate that so many people on this forum understand the value of trying to save a marriage rather than pushing divorce.

I need help. I need help fast. I'm supposed to meet her for this evening, probably in about 5 hours.

1. How should I respond to her wanting a week to "think by herself." She wants me to leave our home. When I challenged her and said that I live here as well, she said something along the lines of, "Do you really want me to make a rash decision about this? I need to time to think. Can't you give me that?"

2. I think now is the time to let her know that I know about the OM. Although I'm pretty sure she's already aware of my knowledge, I want to make sure SHE knows.

I'm thinking about waiting until she brings up the "one week" plan again. My first comment will be, "Are you also going to spend a week away from OM? I want this marriage to work, but you're disrespecting our family."

I need a script. I've been doing a ton of reading on this forum, and I'm just becoming more overwhelmed.

After I out her, it sounds like I need to talk with her parents. Unfortunately, I don't think that I have too many people that will lean on her. Her two closest friends would tell her that I asked them to help apply pressure. Other friends in our mutual "circle" are too weak to really do anything. They're more of the weekend "party" friends than close friends.