You can even hand that premise over Pup because even if it DID die eventually on its own it TAKES a LOT LONGER to do it that way... and the LBS is a BASKET CASE of TRAUMA by that time....
My intent is for a brief updat but I could go off on a tangent
Did some yard work and went to a nephew's b'day party. My sister and brother now know my findings/position.
I had to go through it twice in two nights so I'm kind of tired of thinking and talking about it. Emotionally draining.
W texts at 7:30 (holding my boundary) with the same wording as yesterday "We won't be home tonight. Just letting you know" I said the exact thing back "K"
This is ridiculous. I'm not sure whether she thinks I'm that stupid or she just doesn't care or WHAT?
Since I know what is going on it seems like flaunting. But I doubt she knows anything. But now she doesn't even say "Amanda's" She just says "not home.
Three entire days and nights with OM and his out-laws with MY LITTLE GIRL!! They are getting three days in a row and I get nothing?!
I'm really looking forward to the 24-Aug1 when I have nothing but her.
I am a little concerned with W's behaviour when she returns from the trip after I give the ol' Infidelus Interruptus. We'll both be in town for a week (hers w D) and then D and I are gone for 10 days.
Preparing in advance, I intend to recruit my brothers to help me move ALL MY 'agreed to" possessions under the guise of preparing the house for sale condition. I don't want some possessions to "vanish" in her rage/revenge. My basic clothing and the "negotiable items" (funiture, etc) will stay. Even considering moving my "Toy" car away as I fear it could be damaged.
I'll also have a friend and a neighbor watch my house for OM's truck while we're away. And they are to call me so I can text her "NOT IN THE FAMILY HOME YOU DON'T" My friend will have the code to view the GPS.
I believe it will get really sticky in the next couple of weeks. This is NOT the July I planned or ever wanted.
I will keep the idea that since she has found places to stay on weekends and weeknights so often, "you have solved our living arrangements".
Sorry everyone but my brain continually fades from solid to mush every 30 minutes now. I'm getting really nervous and tense.
ButI know Ican't contimue to live like this and I am so looking forward to the Infidelus text because, most importantly to me, though it can't reverse time since I'd be a fool to believe that she hasn't already slept with him, BUT NOW SHE WILL KNOW I KNOW and simply wasn't a doormat. I was PLANNIING!!
Gonna feel really good. For about 1 minute when the texts start flying and the phone starts ringing (neither of which I'll answer) THEN it's FULL-ON PREP WORK to make all the arrangemenst for financing firewall and custody signatures. Even if it's preliminary and incomplete Sep Agreement, at least I have "something sighned"
Oh, and BEFORE she leaves, I will have her sign off on the 24 am to Aug 1 6pm with D to travel.
OK. everyone count the emotional flip flops in the post above. I lost count.
So tired.
Gotta work from home tomorrow cause I have a Monday deadline and I barely functioned all last week because of all this.
I look forward to a mailbox full of support, 2x4's and recommendations in the am.
Been doing some reading again this morning here I learn a lot from all the threads) and wanted to throw a few things out for you all
I noticed that WAW's send odd and conflicting messages quite often. Mine doesn't text me much other than inane bits of daily life or "required by boundary" info regarding Calla.
However, abd it sometimes gets to me, she has a habit of changing her Blackberry Msng status. I'm not syre if she realizes that everyone in her contacts sees it.
Thought I'd throw the last dozen out here for input- (these all went up in the last three weeks since her trip w/"Amanda"
June 22-25 Thinking only makes it worse Things happen for a reason My expectations are too high Vacation can't come soon enough July 2-10 Wishing the best for you babe! I can't win You are my sunshine Yes I am getting divorced FML (acronym for her favorite new saying- F@#k My Life) Let's just see...
These are all I have as far as gauging her mental state. And it doesn't look good, does it?
Yep, most of those are script... never saw FML before, but I have seen versions similar to it... These statements SCREAM addict to the rooftops though... FML in particular shows downspin and reality hitting hard...
lol